Regina Hiremath is a survivor, author, speaker, and advocate dedicated to raising awareness about narcissistic abuse, childhood trauma, and divorce recovery. After enduring 23 years in a toxic marriage, Regina found the strength to walk away and rebuild her life from the ground up.

Her healing journey led her to write Onesome, a powerful memoir detailing her path to self-discovery and empowerment after abuse. She is now a business owner, divorce blogger, keynote speaker, and board member of Confronting Domestic Violence. Regina provides support and resources for others navigating toxic relationships, emotional healing, and personal transformation.

Through her writing, speaking, and advocacy work, Regina empowers others to reclaim their lives and break free from cycles of trauma and abuse. Her journey serves as an inspiring testament that healing and transformation are possible for anyone willing to take the first step.

In this powerful episode of the Healing Through Love Podcast, we welcome Regina Hiremath, a survivor of childhood abuse and a 23-year narcissistic marriage, who found the courage to rebuild her life and embrace self-discovery. Regina shares her journey of transformation, from enduring emotional trauma to finding the strength to leave and reclaim her identity.

Her newly released memoir, Onesome, chronicles the pivotal lessons she learned on her healing journey. Regina opens up about how her past experiences with child abuse made her more vulnerable to toxic relationships, and how she finally recognized the patterns that kept her stuck.

Listeners will learn:

✅ How narcissistic abuse affects self-worth and decision-making.

✅ The emotional challenges of leaving a long-term toxic relationship.

✅ How self-discovery and personal empowerment can transform life after divorce.

Regina’s journey didn’t stop after leaving her marriage—she turned her pain into purpose by becoming a divorce blogger, keynote speaker, and a board member for a domestic violence organization. She also overcame a lifelong fear of public speaking, proving that transformation is possible at any stage of life.

She now advocates for domestic violence awareness, emotional healing, and self-empowerment, offering hope and guidance to others walking a similar path.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone struggling to break free from abuse, self-doubt, or emotional trauma. Regina’s story will inspire, empower, and provide actionable steps toward healing, self-love, and transformation.

Key Points from the Interview: 

1. How childhood abuse influenced her choice in relationships—and how she broke free. 

2. The emotional strength it took to leave a narcissistic marriage after 23 years. 

3. How sharing her story, blogging, and advocacy helped her reclaim her power.

Listen Now: Join us for an inspiring conversation about overcoming trauma, reclaiming your worth, and creating a future free from abuse. 💜✨

Introduction to the Podcast and Guest

• The Healing Through Love podcast, hosted by Charlene Lynch, focuses on hope, resilience, and transformation in ending domestic violence.
• The podcast features interviews with change-makers, survivors, advocates, and experts in the field of domestic and family violence.
• The guest for this episode is Regina Hyermath, a survivor of child abuse who experienced narcissistic abuse in their 23-year marriage. 

Regina’s Background and Early Trauma

• Regina’s trauma began at age seven when their grandmother passed away from cancer.
• They were sent to live with their mother, which led to a year of intense trauma.
• Regina was then removed from their mother’s custody and sent to live with an alcoholic and abusive relative.
• They spent ten years in a cycle of trauma, entering early adulthood feeling confused, unloved, and unworthy.
• These feelings of unworthiness led Regina to marry a narcissist, as they were seeking to fill an internal void. 

The Importance of Self-Worth and Mentorship

• It is important to find a mentor or someone to help identify behavioral patterns early in life.
• A lack of self-worth led to accepting whatever came into one’s path, including problematic relationships.
• Regina wishes there had been someone to point out red flags and guide them through early adulthood.
• They are now working to help others avoid similar situations, providing the guidance that was once needed. 

Red Flags in Abusive Relationships

• A talk titled ‘Shattered Without a Mark’ addresses the ‘quiet side of DV’ – emotional, verbal, and financial abuse.
• Early red flags include excessive giving and kindness, which later proves to be a facade.
• Gradual changes in behavior cause confusion and self-doubt in the victim.
• Monitoring the victim’s spending while keeping personal finances private is another red flag.
• Initially nice compliments turn into mean comments disguised as jokes, slowly eroding the victim’s self-esteem. 

Strengthening Self-Worth and Self-Esteem

• Therapy, journaling, and engaging in enjoyable activities are recommended to rebuild self-worth.
• Replacing negative self-talk with positive affirmations and reminders of one’s positive qualities is suggested.
• Journaling is highlighted as a valuable tool, with a secure journaling app being used on the phone. 

Regina’s Journey to Advocacy and Writing

• During the divorce process, Regina started a divorce blog which now includes four writers.
• They created a private community and felt compelled to write a book about their personal experiences.
• The book covers various topics including childhood trauma, loss, feeling unworthy, and finding oneself. 

The Normalization of Abuse

• Childhood trauma made an abusive marriage feel normal, fitting the pattern of life.
• Isolation in abusive relationships can prevent victims from recognizing abnormal situations. 

Regina’s Future Plans and Advocacy Work

• Regina is nearing completion of a life coaching certification program.
• They are planning to conduct group sessions and workshops.
• Regina is serving on the executive board of a domestic violence organization, heading community relations.
• They will be a keynote speaker at the organization’s inaugural gala, overcoming a lifelong fear of public speaking. 

Closing Thoughts and Resources

• Regina promotes Healing Through Love’s pamper days for survivors and calls for practitioner volunteers.
• Their final words emphasize that the strength to survive trauma is the same strength needed to rebuild one’s life.
• They encourage listeners to use their inner strength to move forward with peace, happiness, service, and gratitude.

• Regina shares her background of experiencing childhood trauma starting at age 7 and subsequent years of abuse.
• Regina discusses how feelings of unworthiness led her to accept unhealthy relationships and marriage with a narcissist.
• Regina explains the ‘quiet side of DV’ involving emotional, verbal, and financial abuse, describing the initial honeymoon phase followed by manipulation.
• Regina identifies key red flags in abusive relationships, including financial monitoring and emotional manipulation through ‘jokes’.
• Regina shares recovery strategies including therapy, journaling, and positive self-talk.
• Regina discusses creating a divorce blog and writing a book to help others through similar experiences.
• Regina reveals her upcoming plans including life coaching certification and work with domestic violence organization.