Romilly Golding is a UK-based trauma-informed relationship recovery coach and author dedicated to helping women recognise toxic relationship patterns sooner — and reclaim their lives with clarity and confidence.

After navigating two controlling relationships over 15 years, including severe economic abuse that resulted in losing her home, Romilly turned lived experience into a powerful mission. Her upcoming book, 21 Red Flags: Spotting the Subtle Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship, offers women the guidance she once needed — practical, validating, and grounded in real life.

As an ICF-certified coach, Romilly supports women through one-to-one and group programmes that prioritise emotional safety, nervous system regulation, and sustainable healing. Her work blends trauma awareness with clear action, helping women move from survival to sovereignty. She also incorporates somatic healing through ecstatic DJing, using movement and music to support emotional release, embodiment, and reconnection to joy.

What if the red flags weren’t obvious — but they were always there?

In this deeply compassionate episode of Healing Through Love, Rose Davidson welcomes trauma-informed relationship recovery coach and author Romilly Golding for an honest conversation about recognising toxic relationship patterns and rebuilding life after emotional harm.

Many women sense something isn’t right long before they can name it. Small moments accumulate. Doubt grows. Boundaries soften. Romilly shares why these early warning signs are so easy to overlook — and why recognising them is not weakness, but wisdom.

Drawing from her lived experience and her upcoming book 21 Red Flags: Spotting the Subtle Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship, Romilly walks listeners through her four-step framework: Recognise, Respond, Rebuild, and Reclaim. Together, Rose and Romilly explore the emotional and physical impact of prolonged exposure to control, how the nervous system adapts to threat, and what real recovery looks like beyond “just leaving.”

This episode offers grounded tools — from boundary language and power phrases to somatic reconnection — while holding deep respect for the complexity of each woman’s journey.

If you are recovering from a toxic relationship, questioning your past, or learning to trust yourself again, this conversation provides clarity, validation, and a steady path forward.

✨ Three Key Takeaways

1. How to identify subtle red flags in toxic relationships — and understand what drives controlling behaviour
2. The impact prolonged exposure to emotional harm has on the nervous system, body, and self-trust
3. Practical tools to protect yourself, rebuild safety, and reclaim confidence and personal sovereignty