Katherine Miura is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who brings both professional expertise and personal experience to her work in narcissistic abuse recovery. As a survivor herself, she understands the manipulative nature of narcissistic relationships and the devastating emotional impact they leave behind.

Through her private practice, Katherine offers trauma-informed therapy and advocacy for individuals recovering from emotional and psychological abuse. Her mission is to educate others on the subtle yet destructive patterns of narcissistic behavior, empower survivors to reclaim their self-worth, and foster healing through compassion, insight, and strategic recovery tools.

Katherine is known for transforming trauma into clarity, giving survivors not only understanding—but a roadmap forward.

What if the person who hurt you the most was also the one who claimed to love you?

In this eye-opening episode of the Healing Through Love Podcast, we speak with Katherine Miura—a licensed therapist, survivor of narcissistic abuse, and fierce advocate for emotional healing. Katherine’s unique perspective as both a mental health professional and someone who has lived through the manipulative web of narcissism offers a deeply empathetic and practical approach to healing.

Katherine candidly shares her own journey of recovery after enduring emotional abuse and how it led her to become a specialist in narcissistic abuse recovery. Her mission? To help others recognize the red flags, break free from the cycle of abuse, and rebuild their lives with clarity and confidence.

Listeners will learn the psychological signs of narcissistic manipulation, how to rebuild trust in themselves, and why emotional boundaries are essential to long-term healing. Katherine also discusses the internalized shame many survivors carry and how education, therapy, and community support can be the catalyst for lasting transformation.

Whether you’re in a toxic relationship or on the path to recovery, this episode is filled with insight, compassion, and hope.

🎧 Listen now to start reclaiming your truth and power.
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💡 Three Key Takeaways:

1. Recognize Subtle Signs of Narcissistic Abuse – Understand how narcissists manipulate and control through emotional tactics.
2. Rebuild After Trauma – Learn actionable steps to restore self-trust, worth, and confidence.
3. Set Boundaries That Protect Peace – Discover how emotional boundaries are essential for healing and freedom.

Introduction of the Podcast and Guest

• The podcast ‘Healing Through Love’ aims to increase awareness of domestic and family violence and empower survivors.
• The hosts are Charlene Lynch and Rose Davidson.
• The guest, Katherine Miura, is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in narcissistic abuse.
• Katherine shares insights and hope in navigating narcissistic abuse.

Katherine Miura’s Background and Experience

• Katherine’s father is a narcissist, providing personal experience with narcissism.
• Katherine married a narcissist and worked with domestic violence victims.
• Katherine worked at a company run by a narcissist, gaining clinical experience.

Attraction to Narcissistic Individuals

• Individuals raised in a narcissistic household may attract narcissists in adulthood.
• Growing up in such an environment often leads to a lack of boundaries and people-pleasing behavior. 

Signs of Narcissistic Behavior

• Narcissistic abuse involves constructing a false perception of someone else’s reality to control them.
• There is no consensus on what constitutes narcissistic abuse, and it often lacks physical signs like scars or bruises.
• Narcissists seek control, power, and a supply of reflected strength from their victims. 

Traits of Narcissists and Their Impact

• True narcissists meet the diagnostic criteria for narcissism, while others may exhibit traits without meeting the full criteria.
• Narcissists often cycle between kindness and cruelty, creating an addictive pattern of intermittent reinforcement.
• This behavior traps victims and makes it difficult to leave the relationship. 

Personal Experiences with Narcissistic Abuse

• Rose Davidson shares her experience of running away from her narcissistic and sexually abusive father at age 14.
• Rose discusses her current husband’s narcissistic tendencies and the challenges of caring for him with Alzheimer’s. 

Strategies for Dealing with Narcissistic Behavior

• Gray rocking is a strategy where one makes themselves less appealing to the narcissist by avoiding eye contact, showing minimal emotion, and giving short answers.
• Agreeing with everything to avoid conflict can also be a strategy, though it is challenging.
• Recognizing that the narcissist’s words are a reflection of their own issues and not accepting their projections can help in protecting oneself. 

Breaking the Trauma Bond

• Surrendering to the narcissist’s words to survive creates a trauma bond.
• To break this bond, one must recognize the brainwashing, stand up to the lies, and protect their inner child.
• Healing requires self-compassion and stopping the cycle of self-abuse. 

Healing the Inner Child

• The inner child is a critical part of the healing process.
• Abuse during vulnerable periods like pre-teen and teen years can deeply affect the inner child.
• Learning to walk with the inner child instead of fighting or abusing it is essential for healing. 

Resources and Further Information

• Katherine Miura can be found on Facebook in a group called Narcissism Insights and on her website at kathrynmura.com.
• Katherine is preparing to launch a course called ‘Reclaiming your life from narcissistic abuse’ and will form groups as a follow-up to the course. 

Message of Hope

• Katherine emphasizes that there is hope for those feeling stuck in narcissistic abuse.
• She encourages individuals to believe in themselves, take steps forward, and consider reading ‘Inner Bonding’ by Margaret Paul for guidance.

• Katherine Miura, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in narcissistic abuse, shares her personal and professional experiences with narcissism.
• Individuals raised in narcissistic households may attract narcissistic individuals in adulthood due to learned behaviours and lack of boundaries.
• Narcissistic abuse involves constructing a false perception of reality to control victims, often without physical signs, making it difficult to identify.
• Narcissists use intermittent reinforcement through cycling between kindness and cruelty to maintain control over their victims.
• Gray rocking, a technique involving minimal engagement and emotion, can help protect victims from narcissistic abuse.
• Victims can protect themselves by recognizing narcissistic projections as the abuser’s issues rather than their own, and refusing to internalize the abuse.
• Healing from narcissistic abuse involves breaking the trauma bond, standing up to lies, and showing compassion to one’s inner child.
• Katherine Miura’s course, “Reclaiming your life from narcissistic abuse,” and her Facebook group, “Narcissism Insights,” offer resources for those affected by narcissistic abuse.
• There is hope for recovery from narcissistic abuse, and resources like Margaret Paul’s book “Inner Bonding” can aid in the healing process.